Friday, April 24, 2009

Under the Tree

Thank you Carly for keeping us going! You are true motivation!

How long has it been since you lost your child/ren? Has your grief changed at all? Is your life becoming any easier or is it just harder as time passes?
We lost our first Angel Feb 10th, 1996 and we lost our son, Dale III on Jan. 09, 2009. My grief has been so different with the two. We were devastated with the loss of our first one, but it seems that the grief has been more intense with loosing Little Dale. We had tried so long to become pregnant, and were told that we would NOT be having children, so of course he was a miracle and so much wanted. (not that our first one wasn't.) I can say with loosing our first one, which was 13 years ago this Feb, life did eventually get easier. With loosing Little Dale, it has not been getting any easier at all.

How do you feel when you see pregnant women when you are out and about?
It depends on the day. If it is a good day, which right now are few and far between, I don't even think about it. But the other days, I just think, why not me? I know that is selfish, and I truly try and be happy for them, but I still wonder.

Whats your therapy in the aftermath of losing your child? Do you go to counseling? Do you do artwork or some kind of exercise or do you simply just let yourself be? What helps you?

Right now I am actually in therapy, and I honestly do feel as though that is helping. I think just going and talking to someone, letting it all out, really helped me. Plus we have attended a SHARE meeting, which we both thought helped alot. I find that blogging with all of the other Moms on here really help alot. There is so much encouragement from so many. I try to exercise on a regular basis, but mostly I am just letting my feelings, emotions, thoughts just be. I talk to D. all the time about what I am feeling and what he is feeling.


1 comment:

Rach said...

I could not do this without the other mums. Like we always say, we should never have met but I am thnkaful that we have.

I am pleased that your therapy sessions are helping a little...

Thinking of you and your little Dale. And sorry for being a bit absent of late...